Gabe TrevizoThe Distracted Dad Series · by Gabe Trevizo

Be a legendary dad.

From distracted to connected. Simple guides that will change the course of your relationships.

I'm Gabe: Shark Tank entrepreneur, multiple business owner, husband to Cindy for 25 years and dad of four. Connected Fatherhood is my mission to help busy dads close the distance with their kids, from the little years through the teen years. No guilt. Just real stories, word-for-word scripts and steps you can take tonight.

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The big idea behind every guide

Every kid has their own Connection Account with you.

For most dads, the biggest obstacle isn't love. It was never shown to us, and it was never taught. We want to connect. We just don't know how.

So here's the framework I use with all four of my kids. It works like a bank account: deposits and withdrawals. But the currency isn't money. The currency is connection.

Connection at a young age drives trust. Trust builds openness when kids hit adolescence and the hard things start happening. When those hard things come, you want that account full.

It's not too late. Your kid might be 2, or they might be 16. Either way, the account is still open.

Deposits
Withdrawals
Being present
Checking out, retreating when tired
A nightly routine
Going back and forth on your word
Loving what they love
Pushing what you want them to love
Phone down, eyes up
Always on your phone
Listening after the game
Lecturing after the game
Hearing the whole story first
Talking over them, overreacting
"I messed up. Will you forgive me?"
"I'm sorry, but..."
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Each guide stands on its own, and they all come back to one idea: every kid has their own Connection Account with you, and the currency is connection.

  • The Foundation: 20 short chapters, the 7-Day Phones-Down Challenge and a printable nightly checklist
  • Guide to Teens: phones, friends, dating, pushback, and what to do if your teen barely talks
  • Guide to the Outdoors: fishing, hunting and camping with your kids, plus a gear checklist
  • Girl Dad Playbook: her tender heart, dates with dad, and the man she'll look for one day
  • The Business Dad: build your companies without losing your kids, with worksheets and a self-check
  • Bonuses: the Busy Dad's Bonding Cheat Sheet and six Weekly Dad Challenges
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Guide 01 · Any age

The Foundation

Tangible ways to get closer to your kids

For the dad who wants to connect with his kids but was never shown how. It all comes back to the Connection Account.

  • 20 short chapters, from My Story to Repairing a Drifted Teen
  • Word-for-word scripts: the apology, the 20-minute timer, "Daddy, can we...?"
  • "Try this tonight" steps in every chapter
  • The 7-Day Phones-Down Challenge + a printable nightly checklist
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  1. My Story
  2. The Connection Account
  3. No Guilt. It's Not Too Late.
  4. Presence Is the Best Present
  5. Own It
  6. The Nightly Routine
  7. Be Silly
  8. Love What They Love
  9. Phones Down
  10. The Real Test of Sacrificial Love
  11. You Don't Need a Flexible Schedule
  12. Girl Dads and the 20-Minute Timer
  13. Invite Them In
  14. Teens: Let Them Run the Music
  15. After the Game
  16. Discipline With Relationship
  17. When You Blow It
  18. Repairing a Drifted Teen
  19. Partnering With Mom
  20. Family Rituals: High/Low
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Guide 02 · Dads of teens

Guide to Teens

Lean in. Don't step back.

Our teens are walking through a field full of traps. We have to be the guide. Stands on its own.

  • 14 chapters, starting with the biggest mistake dads of teens make
  • Where the real talks happen: bedtime, the car and "bank it"
  • Phones, social media, friends and dating
  • When teens push back, and if your teen barely talks
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  1. Lean In, Don't Step Back
  2. Nobody Has the Same Two Kids
  3. Lead Them, Don't Just Fix Them
  4. Where the Real Talks Happen
  5. Their Friends Are Your Influence
  6. Phones, Social Media and Garbage In, Garbage Out
  7. Dating: What Are We Protecting?
  8. When Teens Push Back
  9. Discipline That Grows With Them
  10. Letting Them Fail
  11. Raising Sacrificial Men
  12. Faith That's Lived, Not Preached
  13. Teen Daughters
  14. If Your Teen Barely Talks
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Guide 03 · Outdoor dads

Guide to the Outdoors

Fishing, hunting and camping with your kids

You're not there to enjoy fishing. You're there to enjoy your kids. For the dad who grew up outdoors, or who's never set up a tent in his life.

  • Start in the Backyard: step one for the dad who doesn't know what he's doing
  • Fishing made simple, and hunting: a whole other level of responsibility
  • Camping as a family, unplugging, and when the trip goes wrong
  • A printable gear checklist and Your Outdoors Playbook
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  1. Why the Outdoors
  2. Start in the Backyard
  3. Fishing Made Simple
  4. Hunting: A Whole Other Level of Responsibility
  5. Camping as a Family
  6. Unplug
  7. Daughters Belong Out There Too
  8. When the Trip Goes Wrong
  9. Faith Under Big Skies
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Guide 04 · Girl dads

Girl Dad Playbook

Her tender heart, from Barbies to her wedding day

Being a girl dad hits differently. With my daughter, I'm an example of who she should look for one day.

  • Her heart is tender: tone, words and discipline
  • Play her game while she's asking: Barbies and the 20-minute timer
  • Dates with dad, the daddy-daughter dance, and the teen years ahead
  • Simple daddy-daughter dates and Your Girl Dad Playbook
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  1. Is Daddy All There?
  2. Her Heart Is Tender
  3. Play Her Game While She's Asking
  4. Bedtime, Prayers and Bunny
  5. Real Questions, Real Answers
  6. When Her Heart Gets Hurt
  7. Dates With Dad
  8. The Daddy-Daughter Dance
  9. The Man She'll Look For
  10. The Teen Years Are Coming
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Guide 05 · Dads who build

The Business Dad

Build your companies without losing your kids

It isn't one or the other. You don't have to choose. But you do have to be intentional.

  • Good hours, not leftover hours: advice for the dad working 70 hours a week
  • Give it a name: protecting family time on the calendar
  • Level at home: your losses don't get to touch their security
  • Worksheets, a self-check and a one-page playbook
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  1. It Isn't One or the Other
  2. Good Hours, Not Leftover Hours
  3. Give It a Name
  4. The Monday Morning Test
  5. Your Business Is in Your Pocket
  6. Level at Home
  7. Get Back on the Horse
  8. What My Kids Learned
  9. Raising Kids Who Work
  10. My Business Partner at Home
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Which guide is for you?

Every guide stands on its own. Start with the season you're in.

Little ones, or any age

The Foundation

The Connection Account, the nightly routine, girl dads and the 20-minute timer, after the game, and what to do when you blow it.

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Teens, or almost there

Guide to Teens

Phones, friends, dating, pushback, discipline and the teen who barely talks.

See Guide 02
You love the outdoors

Guide to the Outdoors

Fishing, hunting, camping and unplugging, starting in your own backyard.

See Guide 03
You're raising a daughter

Girl Dad Playbook

Her tender heart, dates with dad, and the man she'll look for one day.

See Guide 04
You're building something

The Business Dad

Good hours, not leftover hours. Build your companies without losing your kids.

See Guide 05
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Stories from the guides

Real stories from our home.

Violet, 10 · Barbies

Violet and I used to play Barbies EVERY Saturday and Sunday. It was our ritual. At times I hated it, because it cut into my chores and the things I wanted to do with my weekend, but I did it anyway.

Well, she's 10 now, and sometime in the past 6 months she just stopped. I don't remember our "last time" playing Barbies. This happens all the time. We won't know it's the last time.

From The Distracted Dad: The Foundation

Bronson, 16 · After practice

Now that he drives, he'll get home from practice at 10 or 10:30 at night. I'll be awake, waiting for him. He'll want to tell me all about practice.

And usually, I'm completely exhausted. My energy bank is empty. But I'll never shut him down. I'll always listen.

From The Distracted Dad: Guide to Teens

We don't have to be perfect. We have to be present, and we have to lean in.
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Gabe Trevizo with his wife Cindy and their four kids

No greater accomplishment than my family.

Bronson16
Blake14
Violet10
Wyatt8

Real stories from all four of them are in the guides.

About Gabe
Gabe Trevizo

Hey, I'm Gabe.

Shark Tank entrepreneurMultiple business ownerMarried 25 yearsDad of four

I've built multiple companies, and I've been on Shark Tank. But I have no greater accomplishment than my family. My wife, Cindy, and I are celebrating 25 years of marriage this year, and we're parenting partners.

My dad was hands-on, and he was an amazing father. Today he's my best friend. But he worked long hours, and as an adolescent, I found it hard to connect with him. I didn't have that outlet, and I wanted my kids to have it with me.

So when Bronson was born, I jumped in with two feet: night feedings, rocking, baths, late-night drives to get him to fall asleep. As our family grew, I was so involved, right alongside my wife, that my mom jokingly called me "Mr. Mom." I didn't take it as an insult. I embraced it.

I've built those companies without sacrificing my relationships with my kids. It isn't one or the other. I am proof.

Faith in Jesus Christ is at the core of our family. And I don't have it all figured out. I fail my kids regularly. These guides weren't written by a perfect dad. They were written by a dad who keeps choosing to show up.

What other dads say

From dads who've read it.

Friends of mine who read the guides, in their own words.

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I thought my kids needed more of my advice. This guide helped me realize they needed more of my attention. I've started asking questions and letting the conversation go where it goes, even when the answers are short. I can't get their little-kid years back, but I can be present for the years we have now.
MarcusDad of two teenagers
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My daughter is too young to remember any of this, but the guide made me think about the kind of dad she'll grow up knowing. I used to treat time with her as something I squeezed in after everything else. Now I see that holding her, talking to her, and giving her my full attention is already part of building that relationship.
DanielDad of an infant daughter
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With four little kids, I'm usually thinking about the next thing that needs to get done. This guide helped me notice how often I was in the room but distracted. I'm still a busy dad, but I'm more intentional about stopping, looking my kids in the eye, and joining what they're doing. Those small moments feel different now.
EvanDad of four young kids
FAQ

Questions, answered.

Which guide should I start with?

If your kids are little, or you want the foundation, start with The Foundation. It covers any age. Then pick the season you're in: Guide to Teens, Guide to the Outdoors, Girl Dad Playbook or The Business Dad. If you want all of it, the Complete Collection gets you all five for $79.99.

Do I need to read The Foundation first?

No. Every guide stands on its own. If you've read The Foundation, you'll see the Connection Account carry through, but you don't need to start there.

What's in the Complete Collection?

All five guides as PDFs (183 pages): The Foundation, Guide to Teens, Guide to the Outdoors, Girl Dad Playbook and The Business Dad. Plus two bonuses: the Busy Dad's Bonding Cheat Sheet and six Weekly Dad Challenges. It all comes in one ZIP file. $79.99, vs. $124.95 if you buy the five guides separately. A few of my favorite stories show up in more than one guide, because they belong in each.

How much is each guide?

$24.99 each, one-time. No subscription. Yours to keep.

What format is it? When do I get it?

PDFs, delivered as an instant download as soon as you check out. They read well on your phone, tablet or computer, and you can print them. The checklists are designed to go on the fridge.

I'm a single dad / co-parenting. Is this for me?

Yes. The same playbook works for you. Focus on building the accounts with deposits; that part never changes. The Foundation has a section just for co-parenting and single dads.

My teen and I have drifted. Is it too late?

No. The account is still open. The Foundation has a chapter on repairing a drifted teen, and Guide to Teens closes with "If Your Teen Barely Talks": lean in anyway, and create persistent touch points. If it's really serious, I recommend working with a counselor too.

Is this Christian? I'm not religious.

Faith in Jesus Christ is the core of my family and my fatherhood, and you'll see it woven through the guides. If you share that faith, I hope it encourages you. If you don't, you're welcome here all the same. Every tool in these guides works for any dad who's willing to show up.

I'm busy. How much time does this take?

The chapters are short. Read one a night, or jump straight to the one you need most. Most steps are small: a phone in a drawer, a 20-minute timer, a car ride where they run the music. You don't need a flexible schedule. You need to not check out.

Your move, Dad

You don't have to be perfect. You have to be present.

Put the phone down. Make a deposit. Then make another one tomorrow.

It's not too late. Not for you, and not for your kids.

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Presence is the best present. — Gabe